A Rant in Defence of GLBTQ Authors and Books.

This morning I had a text conversation with a member of my family. It began with a joke when I told her that my blog had been read in Abu Dhabi and I was now perhaps a criminal as homosexuality was a crime in the AE.
It ended with me defending my choice of writing genre to her when she said that perhaps I should put my (questionable lol) talents into writing something more readable and enjoyable!!! And when I informed her that even many published authors don’t earn large amounts of money, (we do it for love of the genre) she answered that that was because no one wants to read that kind of thing!!!! Oh, really?

Why, why, why do people criticise what they do not know or understand? What do they imagine GLBTQ authors are writing for God’s sake. Do they think it’s all steamy sex scenes and anal/oral sex on every damn page. Because I’m sure they do imagine that is the case. It’s that same thing which has been spoken about so often lately. If it’s gay then it follows it MUST be erotic and steamy and adult themed. Grrrrrrr! I am annoyed and upset that an intelligent professional woman would take this attitude and have this erroneous belief without actually reading anything which I or any other GLBTQ author has written.

I did explain that in many cases the gay relationship is incidental to the plot and authors write exactly the same kind of thing as any other author. Mysteries, murder, paranormal, fantasy etc and yes, there are books which are erotic and steamy. But so it is with many ‘straight’ romances as well.

It’s so horribly narrow minded and unfair, and in my opinion a bloody insult to the many talented authors I’ve ‘met’ here and elsewhere. A slur on their talents and their integrity.

But how many of you have found yourself defending your genre of choice to family members?

9 thoughts on “A Rant in Defence of GLBTQ Authors and Books.

  1. zen and the art of borderline maintenance

    I have. I was always put down for writing poetry, of any kind, and put down for writing fetish-based erotica, which I haven’t mustered up the guts to share yet, though I’ve got the blog set up. BUT, this writing isn’t so much about sex (as you write) as it is about coming to terms with one’s personality. I defend you. I am sorry you are judged in this way. Terrible thing, especially, as you say, when the person hasn’t bothered to read it.

  2. onlyfragments

    Fortunately, I’ve never had to defend my writing choice to my family. Unfortunately, that’s because they take zero interest in my writing no matter how much I talk about it and about how important it is to me, so they’ve never actually read any of it. But I agree, it can be hard to find people who are immediately accepting of your chosen genre when they assume you MUST be writing about sex all the time. I mean, come on – my characters weren’t even “gay” (if you must label them, since technically neither of them actually is) for years. They weren’t created to be in a relationship together; that came about completely through their own evolution.

    Thank god for the internet and places like WordPress, at least! I never had so much success finding others to connect with when I posted on LJ. I’m so glad I made the switch to WP.

  3. Elin Gregory

    Yes, this is regular. My mother says “oh no, you’re not writing about queers again. Why can’t you write something NICE?”, one of my RL friends [still because I don’t have many and can’t afford to lose one] says it’s fetishistic and exploitative and on a par with fat sweaty men masturbating over pictures of fake lesbians [she is a creature of strong passions and absolutely no tact], my husband says he doesn’t give a damn what I write as long as I hand over the royalty cheques. *sigh* And now I have published I’ve had criticism because there wasn’t enough sex in my story. I dunno – sometimes I wish I’d just carried on writing in private.

  4. Elin Gregory

    Funnily enough I found the opposite. I have friends on LJ, though it took a while to get to know people, but I’ve found it VERY difficult to find blogs to follow on WordPress. Of the 20 or so blogs I have followed 3 have followed me back so I use WP for very specific purposes rather than for socialising.

  5. jessielansdel Post author

    Yes, I’ve found LJ has many like minded people who write in my genre. It was Friends Reunited where I came across the horrendous bigotry and homophobia. It made me ill at one point. but WP and LJ have been a God send and so have the people I’ve ‘met’ there. So thanks fellow ‘weirdos’ Lol. 😉

  6. jessielansdel Post author

    Sex is very nice in a story if it helps carry the story forward and it’s not just gratuitous, and if it’s written with skill and finesse. I’ve just read one like that. So beautifully sensual it made one drool. 🙂
    You write what you’re comfortable writing, anything else and it just reads as clumsy and contrived. Your ‘Bees’ is a lovely story and you work too damned hard to hide your light under a bushel. (if that’s the right term) *hugs*

  7. Elin Gregory

    That’s a very kind thing to say! *hugs*
    Plot development sex – yes that works very well. When I’m reading, unless a sex scene has an element of that I tend to just skim it to get on to where the plot begins again. When I’m writing I find UST [unresolved sexual tension] far more useful as part of a plot than actual boinking and a lot depends on the characters too. I’ve written Kit Penrose far too uptight. In the second draft he’s going to have to have a libido transfusion. On the other hand Cynfal and Gwion in A Fierce Reaping have been at it like knives. I’ll send you a sample.

  8. onlyfragments

    I understand that, which is why I tend to avoid following popular blogs because I know the person doesn’t appreciate my attention as much as someone who only has a handful of followers. I don’t have many active followers here, either, but the ones I do have tend to read and comment more often than the handful I had on LJ. Maybe I’m just bad at making friends anywhere, haha.

  9. Karen H.

    I love this quote: “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” ~ Wayne Dyer. Keep doing what you’re doing; it’s working. 🙂

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